There are days when I feel as though I'm the Ring Master in the circus. Juggling lives as though we're all a bunch of balls..... and I sure as hell can't afford to drop one!
LM has been very clingy recently. He wants to sit beside me when he eats or sit in my lap while he's eating. He wants me to put him to bed. Bath time, he wants mommy. I can't leave the house without whining on his part. While being clingy, he's also become defiant. TH or I will tell him, "Don't touch that!" The child will go up and put one finger on it looking at us/daring us to do something.
Am I not giving him enough attention? Is he going through a stage? Is this just part of raising a child/children?
Obviously, things are different in our home now with the addition of BB. I try to give both boys my undivided attention at times. BB cries more than LM did because I have 2 children to take care of now. LM was the only child for 2. 5 yrs so it was whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted it. I know things have changed drastically for him. I'm trying to be understanding and patient.
Please, don't' take this post as complaining. We are blessed with two healthy boys. I'm just trying to find my footing and figure out as a parent if I'm doing what's right for both my children. I can hear a mom with more than 2 children give a sigh and roll her eyes while thinking "she's only got 2 kids!" I know I've only got to but 2 is what I'm dealing with.... not 3, or 4 or even 5. Two is my magic number right now!
I have decided to every week or at least every other week to have a "Lil Man and Mommy Day". A day for just the two of us to hang out, do a fun activity for just LM, and not have to worry about BB getting any of LM's attention.
Whew! And to think I want a third! hahahahahaha. TH is not on board with that just yet. :)
7 years ago
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I'm sure as time goes on he'll get completely adjusted to not being the only child. I don't have any kids but from what I read, it sounds like you're doing a great job!
Oh girl...I'm not sure I can help with you on this...Hagen is going through a phase right now too!
This weekend just about did us in...my local friends and I have decided that we are just going to chalk it up to the heat...it was over 100 here and will be for the next 7 days!
SO defiant...throwing tantrums...just terrible. I will look him in the eye and tell him not to do something and he just keeps on keeping on...
I caught myself losing control a few times...had to take a 10 second breather for myself...but we survived.
We are all entitled to a bad day, but honestly this weekend just sucked...
Hang in there...know you are not alone. To think I am bringing a new one into the house when it is too cold to put the boys out in the backyard to get away from me? Not good timing on my part! ha!
I think it's definitely a stage for LM. T did the same exact thing.....and I tell you, the look of defiance in her eye as she did something I just asked her not to almost sent me over the edge each and every time! They are definitely testing us out and testing their limits. I tried for a while to do the "one finger touch" approach to kill her curiosity....she could touch what she wanted with one finger (obviously, within reason - nothing dangerous like a hot stove). That approach worked for a while, but then she got wise to it and stopped listening again. She's a bit better now, but we still have our struggles.
It really hasn't been that long since BB was born. You all just need time to adjust - and it's probably hard when your three years old and can't really communicate maybe as much as you'd like to.
And he is YOUR kid after all. Pretty sure I could tell you where the attitude comes from....
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